Disability Pride & Pleasure: Broadening the Lens on Intimacy
Our bodies are always changing. Sometimes that change is gradual—shifting with age, hormones, or experience. Other times, it happens in an instant: one wrong step off a curb, and suddenly, you’re navigating crutches, recovery timelines, and a very different relationship with your body.
Disabled sex is real sex.
It’s easy to assume that sex and intimacy will look one way for our whole lives, but the truth is, pleasure isn’t static—and neither are we. Disability Pride Month is a time to celebrate the power, resilience, and creativity of disabled people, and it’s also an opportunity to expand how we think about connection, touch, and sexual expression.
Whether you identify as disabled, are experiencing a temporary shift in ability, or are supporting a partner whose body moves through the world differently than your own, it’s worth remembering: pleasure is still possible. It might look different than you originally imagined—but that doesn’t make it any less pleasurable or fulfilling.
Adaptive Tools for Empowered Pleasure
Sex isn’t a one-position, one-size-fits-all experience. It’s diverse, personal, and adaptable—and luckily, so are the tools designed to support it. Here are a few devices and ideas we love for expanding access to intimacy:
Liberator Wedges & Sportsheets Positioning Pillows
Standard pillows can squish and shift. For folks with impaired balance or those who fatigue easily, our firmer, angled wedges like the Liberator Jaz or the Pivot Poisitioner Wedge Pillow help keep you supported and upright. They're great for reducing strain and making it easier to maintain one position without needing to constantly readjust.
Door Jam Sling
While not a replacement for a Hoyer lift, a door jam sex sling swing can help un-weight a partner—especially during standing or upright positions—so that one partner isn’t responsible for bearing the other’s full body weight. This allows more focus on giving or receiving pleasure, without the strain.
Soft Ankle Cuffs
For folks with low muscle tone, spasticity, or limited leg mobility, soft cuffs like the Bound in Love Soft Cuffs offer gentle restraint and helpful positioning. They allow both legs to be lifted or moved simultaneously and then held in place—sometimes even with one hand—freeing up energy and reducing the need for full physical strength during play.
Toys That Work With (Not Against) Your Body
Cute Little Fuckers
Designed by Step Tranovich a queer trans person with a neurological disease, Cute Little Fuckers are made to be body- and neurodivergent-friendly. Their whimsical shapes, like the Starsi Vibe, are easy to hold, easy to use, and completely charming. Many of their toys are designed to accommodate reduced dexterity, sensory needs, and unique positioning. They’re great for solo play, partnered fun, or simply exploring what feels good in your body now—not the body you “used to have.”
Wand-Style Vibrators
Wands like the Magic Wand or Le Wand are beloved for a reason. Their broad heads, powerful vibrations, and ease of positioning make them fantastic for folks who want big sensation without a lot of pressure or precision. If gripping is a challenge, many wands can be used through clothing or bedsheets or in a wand-specific harness to hold them in place. What's more, you can turn many wands with large heads into vibrating strokers with the Le Wand Stroke Attachment—perfect for hands-free penis stimulation with allll the power.
Vibrating Strokers
Penis owners with limited hand mobility or grip strength may find vibrating strokers like El Ray a game-changer. They can be held in place (or positioned with assistance), offering stimulation without needing active motion. Add in remote control or app-based options, like with the Kiiroo Titan Vibrating Interactive Stroker, and the stroker can be operated by a partner from across the room—or across the country.
Remote-Control Toys
Toys like the We-Vibe Moxie can be worn discreetly in the underwear and controlled by a partner via app. For people who want to enjoy intimacy without active movement—or who enjoy the thrill of surrender—remote toys can offer connection, anticipation, and customizable pleasure.
Mio Cock Ring
Designed to support erections by restricting blood flow, the Mio’s stretch and versatility make it helpful in other ways too. It can be worn over the hand or fingers to turn your hand into a vibrator—ideal for folks who have difficulty gripping or holding a toy.
When Sensation Changes, Play Changes
Loss of sensation—or change in how your body registers touch—can be frustrating or disorienting. That’s where sensation play comes in. From feather ticklers to temperature play, sensory exploration can reignite curiosity and awaken new nerve pathways. It invites you to ask: What can I feel now? and What feels good in this version of my body?
At Lotus Blooms, we believe that all bodies deserve access to pleasure. Disabled sex is real sex. Sex that’s adaptive, creative, slow, assisted, or playful is all valid, and there are so many ways to explore what intimacy means to you.
Disability Pride means honoring your body’s truth—not by denying change, but by embracing all the new ways we can seek joy, connection, and pleasure.
We’re always here to help you find tools, toys, and strategies that support your unique needs. Stop by, explore at your pace, and ask all the questions—we’re ready when you are.
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